By Joan Clayton: PNT columnist
It’s been said, “What you said yesterday is what you are living today.”
In other words, we are a product of our words. Words have power, positive or negative.
It is awesome and sobering to realize you and I have within us the potential for building or destroying, and we do it with words. Words go before us and shape the future. Words represent who we are. Negative and worry filled words reflect our personality.
I heard someone say, “Our biggest problem is one inch below our nose.” How true. Words said in anger are not easily forgotten. Angry words bring unrest, ill feelings and animosity.
By the same token, kind and loving words are not soon forgotten either. I shall always remember the day our youngest adult son said to me after a misunderstanding, “There is nothing you can ever say or do that would make me not love you.” That locates our relationship and I cherish it.
Wrong words spoken to a child can deeply wound and the results can overlap into adult relationships. Wrong words spoken can initiate an illness, destroy a relationship and can even cause vicious crimes.
Words have the ability to stir up hostility. “Hatred stirs old quarrels, but love overlooks insults. (Proverbs 10:12) Replacing hate with love solves a multitude of problems.
Right words spoken to a child builds self-esteem, a strong character and a successful adult. Wrong words spoken in childhood leads to problems in later life.
Depression has been associated with verbal abuse that is hard to overcome.
Many have the “what if” disease. “What if” the report comes back positive?”
“What if we have to declare bankruptcy? What if the sky falls?” And to all of this that I say, “What if it doesn’t?”
I choose to say faith filled words. If we knew every word we said would surely come to pass, we would use words carefully. Proverbs 6:2 states it clearly: “Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth.”
Proverbs 16:24 has the answer: “Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.”
Right words spoken create a pleasant atmosphere and wholeness.
A right word spoken keeps marriages together and produces well-adjusted children. These words leave special tender memories.
Words can follow a path to peace or words can lead to continual strife. Wrong words take away joy and the zest for living.
God has given the power to stop negative thoughts and words. “Greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.” (1 John 4:4) With the Greater One in us, we can fight the battle and win in conquering thoughts and speech.
Optimism and kind words promote a cheerful outlook. Looking on the bright side
helps me see difficulties as challenges and an opportunity for God to show himself strong. I’d rather soar with the eagles and ride above the storm. God has given them that ability and he surely has given us the same.
So words have power to hurt and power to heal. Kind words gain tremendous victories simply because they come from someone who believes in you or me. It’s hard for someone to achieve success if he or she is surrounded by words of defeat, ridicule and rejection.
I’ve made a list to help me to be careful with my words:
Get rid of fear.
Handle one problem at a time.
Leave your work at the office.
Be happy now, not tomorrow.
Be a good listener.
Be content with what you have.
I want my words to heal, help and encourage. Even though I stumble and slip, I will get right back up and start over. You can too!
You are a wonderful amazing human being, created by God. Be blessed today and may your words shape a great destiny.