More than one wife not the life for some

By Anita Doberman

Military lessens stigma of mental health counseling

By Anita Doberman I asked my husband and some of his military friends whether they would seek mental health counseling. Ninety-nine percent, including hubby, answered with a resounding “no” — regardless of the issue.

Special video gets surprise reaction

By Anita Doberman I fully expected my children to be ecstatic when we put on a recording my husband sent from Iraq. But I was surprised by my 4-year-old daughter’s reaction. We received the DVD through a program called “United Through Reading.” The deployed military member visits a USO center and the staff records him […]

Husband's family video meets mixed reactions

By Anita Doberman I fully expected my children to be ecstatic when we put on a recording my husband sent from Iraq. But I was surprised by my 4-year-old daughter’s reaction.

Being with husband worth juggling logistics

By Anita Doberman My husband and I have had to make some important decisions in the last few weeks. After many months of deployments, it seems that he has to go for one year of training for the new aircraft he will be flying. The training is split in two different locations, and once he […]

4-H leaders: Heavy on the heart

My husband and I were 4-H organizational leaders for quite a few years. That meant we were the ones who begged, cajoled or bribed other parents, friends and neighbors into sharing their expertise with the kids as project leaders. Soon after we began this journey a wise county agent said, “Remember, we’re not raising animals, […]

No bull here

When my husband and I were young and just starting out, we decided to apply for a loan from a government-underwritten outfit to purchase a few cows. We had the place to run them secured and the drought was temporarily over (which is all we can ever ask for in the Southwest). We even had […]

Everybody has a snake story

What were your mother’s parting words every time you left the house? Right. “Watch for snakes.” In August, we were told to be extra careful because the rattlers would be shedding their skins, their eyes would be covered for a few days, and since they couldn’t see they would strike at the sounds we made […]

Inspiration found in unexpected place

Anita Doberman In the last few weeks, I missed my husband’s call from overseas too many times. If it’s just once or twice I don’t mind, but if it happens on numerous occasions, I feel frustrated and disappointed. I wanted to share our excitement about an upcoming trip to Atlanta to attend my oldest daughter’s […]

Other mother provides inspiration to persevere

By Anita Doberman In the last few weeks, I missed my husband’s call from overseas too many times. If it’s just once or twice I don’t mind, but if it happens on numerous occasions, I feel frustrated and disappointed. I wanted to share our excitement about an upcoming trip to Atlanta to attend my oldest […]

Returning adopted child unjustified

Anita Doberman Hard to believe, but a Dutch couple returned their adopted Korean daughter after seven years. The parents had adopted the little girl from South Korea when she was four months old. Reports of how the situation unfolded were contradictory, but it appears that the girl was given over to the care of the […]

Each new life should be celebrated

Anita Doberman I had two miscarriages after my first daughter was born. Although they were early in the pregnancy, I felt a deep sense of loss and despair for the babies I lost, and it took me a long time to recover and move forward. I hated having to tell everyone that the baby didn’t […]

Couple returns adopted daughter after seven years

By Anita Doberman Hard to believe, but a Dutch couple returned their adopted Korean daughter after seven years. The parents had adopted the little girl from South Korea when she was four months old. Reports of how the situation unfolded were contradictory, but it appears that the girl was given over to the care of […]

New life should always be treasured

By Anita Doberman I had two miscarriages after my first daughter was born. Although they were early in the pregnancy, I felt a deep sense of loss and despair for the babies I lost, and it took me a long time to recover and move forward. I hated having to tell everyone that the baby […]

Perfect Christmas involves family, lasting memories

Tonya Fennell Christmas perfection has always eluded me. I’m the wife who burns the rolls or forgets to buy a needed ingredient for the casserole. I’m the friend who waits until the last minute to mail presents, so of course they’re always late. I’m the mother who buys the perfect video game, but my kids […]

Notes on appreciation, understanding

Anita Doberman It’s almost impossible not to think about the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan during the holidays. As military families, we may have loved ones away, and the holidays can be a particularly trying time. I find the holidays reveal a deep disconnect between military families and civilians. Most non-military people I come across […]

Our holiday traditions

I love Christmas. Unlike a lot of families, we don’t have a lot of traditions in our house. We pretty much just go with the flow. Last year we were sleep-deprived parents of an infant, so the tree didn’t go up until two weeks before Christmas. Shopping was done when the baby was happy and […]

Daughter needs support

Anita Doberman This past weekend I attended my oldest daughter’s first cheerleading competition. Actually, it was also my first cheerleading competition. I arrived at this event with mixed feelings. Cheerleading has been a big point of contention between my husband and I. Unfortunately, while he agreed to let our daughter be part of a competitive […]

Cheer squad now no cause for concern

By Anita Doberman This past weekend I attended my oldest daughter’s first cheerleading competition. Actually, it was also my first cheerleading competition. I arrived at this event with mixed feelings. Cheerleading has been a big point of contention between my husband and me. Unfortunately, while he agreed to let our daughter be part of a […]

Cannon 2007 military family of the year nominees announced

The Godbey family has been nominated for 2007 Cannon Military Family of the Year. Editors’ note: Four families have been nominated for 2007 Cannon Military Family of the Year. Two families will be featured each week. The winning family will be announced Dec. 4. According to the Airman and Family Readiness Center, a five-person panel […]